Dr. Trina Read answers the question, "I've never had a vaginal orgasm during intercourse. Is there something wrong with me?"
Intercourse is meant to produce a vaginal orgasm. Not all women can have a vaginal orgasm—in fact approximately one third of women do consistently; a third of women will sometimes if they are sufficiently aroused; and a third of women will not. The last group cannot due to her “x” chromosome as opposed to a lack of technique or her being too uptight.
Generally, when the average long term couple walks into the bedroom, their lovemaking will last 12 to 13 minutes—yes, researchers have done studies on duration. It takes most women 10 to 15 minutes to become properly aroused. Meaning that the average gal isn’t aroused enough or at all when she starts to have intercourse. Hence the reason for her lack of enthusiasm during the experience. And for men who are thinking, “Well, I always do my best to give my lady an orgasm before it’s my turn.” Guess what? A woman can have an orgasm and not be at all aroused.
Let it be said that when a woman is suitably aroused, intercourse is a welcome and delicious part of the event. It’s not whether she can have a vaginal orgasm or not, for her it’s all about the overall experience.So the trick is to make sure that she is adequately aroused. To do this, she needs at least five to ten minutes of foreplay.